Posted Date: Friday, September 27, 2013
As a relatively newly wed person with no kids, I still have the luxury of believing I can escape certain.. er.. life struggles. For example, we still eat out at classy(ish) restaurants, make last minute decisions to head to Banff for the weekend and have lots of non-bedroom sex. But we know that when that magical moment of parenthood is upon us, our world will be filled with unimaginable beauty with the kind of love that squeezes your soul so hard breathing is impossible. Though rumor is, some parents can barely put on matching socks and run a brush through their hair, let alone enjoy their favourite creole restaurant without planning it 2 weeks in advance.
“Sex After Kids” explores, well, sex after kids. It is playing at this year’s Edmonton International Film Festival. When writer and Director Jeremy LaLonde says, “If you’ve got kids, never want them, or you’ve seen them already leave the nest, then there’s something here for you,” he’s right.
The film won Best Feature at Film North in Huntsville and was the first runner-up for the Audience Award in Santa Barbara. And I’m sure there’s more to come.
"Sex After Kids" is so human and so fresh. When one of the characters throws flour in her gluten-hating, TV-intolerating partner’s face, I laughed. But I also earnestly felt that desperation between the characters - the reality of being in a relationship and fighting to keep the love, forget the lists and laundry or the perfect parenting, and let it all go for the moment.
LaLonde says he hopes people will take away that “being a parent and in a relationship is hard - but you aren’t alone.” Many of us face similar struggles; trying to maintain our identities as human beings and individuals, while taking care of the people around us. This film captures that struggle and is so clever and down to earth about it, you’d think the film was about your next door neighbour, sister, or colleague.
LaLonde says for some viewers, "Sex After Kids" is a “love letter to parents.” So for me this letter is not yet written, and only time will tell what shape it will take - but one thing is for sure, the mothers and fathers around me with knowing looks and weary tales, aren’t telling me to avoid parenthood at all costs - and there must be a reason for that.
LaLonde and his producing partner Jennifer Liao, along with Kris Holden-Ried and Zoie Palmer will be coming to EIFF to screen "Sex After Kids" this Saturday at 7:00 p.m. Following the film, they will be holding a Q&A. Come check this out and meet some of these great filmmakers. This is one comedy you don’t want to miss at EIFF13!